tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post2408824592283184327..comments2023-06-14T08:24:18.553-04:00Comments on The Feminist Underground: How We Like Our Lesbianshabladorahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01730183259272125337noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-54867465373427499122008-09-11T01:15:00.000-04:002008-09-11T01:15:00.000-04:00Tipping the Velvet! There I was, a 14 year old, up...Tipping the Velvet! There I was, a 14 year old, up late at night, watching the ABC, anxious about the squirmy feeling I felt in my stomach when I saw two women kiss. I know a Kim who'll be browsing the library tonight!<BR/><BR/>Could be, perhaps, that in a relationship between ladies you can say "bugger off" to the world - particularly the beauty-idealed, obsequious-behaviour-producing part - andAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-15871636322067042642008-09-10T13:29:00.000-04:002008-09-10T13:29:00.000-04:00Another interesting conversation about how gender ...Another interesting conversation about how gender performance intersects with sexuality is going on <A HREF="http://www.thefword.org.uk/reviews/2008/09/femmes_of_power" REL="nofollow">(here)</A> at the F-Word.habladorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01730183259272125337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-50724056008913189512008-09-10T00:35:00.000-04:002008-09-10T00:35:00.000-04:00OH! You should watch the LWord, for sure! I think ...OH! You should watch the LWord, for sure! <BR/><BR/>I think there is definitely a point where lesbian acts can be defined as heterosexually pleasing. But...I dont think I would describe Ellen or even Lindsay Lohan that way. Only because their relationship are not faceted to please men, but are genuine. <BR/><A HREF="http://ohpresspass.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">oh!press pass</A>M.R.Ambrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14245264868708415426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-12502292111314467802008-09-09T14:59:00.000-04:002008-09-09T14:59:00.000-04:00On Habladora's note, there's a post up at Girl w/P...On Habladora's note, there's a post up at Girl w/Pen about <A HREF="http://girlwithpen.blogspot.com/2008/09/family-stories-heteroflexibility.html" REL="nofollow">heteroflexibility</A>.sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01054413520223145494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-29868031421430208062008-09-09T10:27:00.000-04:002008-09-09T10:27:00.000-04:00I'm not butch or femme. I'm not lesbian or straigh...<I>I'm not butch or femme. I'm not lesbian or straight.</I><BR/><BR/>I think that speaks for most of us - we're all scattered throughout those spectra. We're so enamored of labels, though, that we really try to force everyone we see into either/or categories. Funny that normal people, with their complex and fluid identities, are just too radical for main-stream media.habladorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01730183259272125337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-88354851607280479892008-09-09T09:20:00.000-04:002008-09-09T09:20:00.000-04:00Yeah, it kind of annoys me to see every lesbian in...Yeah, it kind of annoys me to see every lesbian in the media/entertainment be a man's fantasy. What about people like me, just average women? I'm not butch or femme. I'm not lesbian or straight. Or would that be to nonstereotypical for the masses?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-18741376853903751572008-09-08T16:12:00.000-04:002008-09-08T16:12:00.000-04:00noticed and fourth wave: thanks for the suggestion...noticed and fourth wave: thanks for the suggestions. I'm glad that at least people are making efforts even if it hasn't hit the mainstream. <BR/><BR/>I do have to admit that Dr. Hahn on Grey's is one of the exceptions to my rule, although it's still unclear how that whole thing will play out. I'm hoping that just because my two favorite characters on that show may get into a lesbian Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00590540336794948058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-38641164537614334432008-09-08T14:02:00.000-04:002008-09-08T14:02:00.000-04:00Really interesting post. I have read all the Sarah...Really interesting post. I have read all the Sarah Waters books--they're totally fantastic (also, the audio book version of The Night Watch is amazingly well-read/acted)--but I have to say that a substantial number of queer women I know (most of them American or Canadian) have at least heard of her, if not read her books. I'm sure it's true though that her books aren't nearly as popular in the USAviva DVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07283328910986366972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-91396390504214952662008-09-08T13:07:00.000-04:002008-09-08T13:07:00.000-04:00I recently saw the film "Tell No One" (I believe i...I recently saw the film "Tell No One" (I believe it's French). In it, one of the main female characters has a wife. There was a scene that struck me as so normal, when she tells an officer she needs to get home because her wife is waiting for her. Just like that. No giggling or references to hot girl-on-girl fantasies.<BR/><BR/>It was so refreshing, and yet it made me think that such a casualAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-85142846569396822442008-09-08T11:46:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:46:00.000-04:00Renee of Womanist Musings has a post up (here) rig...Renee of Womanist Musings has a post up <A HREF="http://www.womanist-musings.com/2008/09/can-you-spot-lesbians-lohan-and-ronson.html" REL="nofollow">(here)</A> right now that deals with a similar issue - our need to still treat lesbian relationships as Other. I think that both our wanting to turn lesbianism into a fetish for straights (like in the Katy Perry song - kissing girls to make boys hothabladorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01730183259272125337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-10535471417205885812008-09-08T11:27:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:27:00.000-04:00I have read Fun Home. Another great recommendatio...I have read Fun Home. Another great recommendation. I really loved it. Feel free to post other great lesbian reads or films or whatever.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00590540336794948058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-48471824490037323012008-09-08T11:04:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:04:00.000-04:00The lesbians on the L Word are pretty much lipstic...The lesbians on the L Word are pretty much lipstick lesbians, even the butch women. They all tend to follow the same body type and "conventional" Hollywood attractiveness. It's nice to see some diversity in sexuality on television... but we're still stuck in the same mold of what's attractive and what's not.<BR/><BR/>Try Alison Bechdel's Fun Home. It's a great graphic novel about her looking lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13285797515594923013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-10330097092898917572008-09-08T11:01:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:01:00.000-04:00Great post. I'm certainly going to add those books...Great post. I'm certainly going to add those books to my "must read" pile that seems to be growing rapidly :)Radical Remindershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09155472776262393597noreply@blogger.com