tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post832608976590862158..comments2023-06-14T08:24:18.553-04:00Comments on The Feminist Underground: Feminist Parenting: Parenting My Wayhabladorahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01730183259272125337noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-34204141796109032802008-09-16T10:54:00.000-04:002008-09-16T10:54:00.000-04:00Gender is a spectrum and one's behavior is only ro...Gender is a spectrum and one's behavior is only roughly corelated--absent external re-inforcers--with what's between ones legs.<BR/><BR/>Teaching children to be respectful of others' <I>personhood</I> and pointing out such disrespect when encountered is a fair defense against anti-humanist sexism and other <I>isms</I>.<BR/><BR/>The trap comes when the penis-bearer discovers that there's an Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-53311972229118671172008-09-15T11:10:00.000-04:002008-09-15T11:10:00.000-04:00Erica - yes, I still do experience my kids behavin...Erica - yes, I still do experience my kids behaving in some traditional gender roles with their gender toys but as you've said the focus is on the larger issues of gender equality. The most important thing for them to walk away with is confidence in themselves as who they authentically are and to not be crushed by the gendered prescriptions they can't fill.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876511620026324245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-34773773136212824572008-09-13T11:21:00.000-04:002008-09-13T11:21:00.000-04:00Thank you for mentioning that many men, even if th...Thank you for mentioning that many men, even if they believe in the John Wayne standard, not only don't live up to it but can't. In this regard, teaching our sons another way to think about who they are may give them a better shot at happiness.<BR/><BR/>Likewise, since I was very young, I've hated the saying "boys will be boys." Nobody ever said it unless one of us was doing something bad.DJ Dual Corehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04381643830082969577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-50064263024779356072008-09-12T23:46:00.000-04:002008-09-12T23:46:00.000-04:00I think that parents' value has the biggest impact...I think that parents' value has the biggest impact on parenting.<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.parents-and-kids.com" REL="nofollow">http://www.parents-and-kids.com</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-26231047827786246892008-09-12T12:51:00.000-04:002008-09-12T12:51:00.000-04:00This is great to see. I've always appreciated femi...This is great to see. I've always appreciated feminism's permission for women to be single and childless but at the same time, its probably feminists who need to be parents the most. <BR/><BR/>But im just curious--have you experienced any of your children behaving in "traditional" gender roles despite your teaching otherwise? For instance, i know of many feminist mothers who encourage their sons Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3509053156280655479.post-72064647090243591602008-09-12T11:15:00.000-04:002008-09-12T11:15:00.000-04:00Well, when they start allowing fist fights at boar...<I>Well, when they start allowing fist fights at board meetings for managers who disagree, you let me know and I'll certainly try to toughen them up then.</I><BR/><BR/>This points to something I've always felt was true - that we base our expectations of what boys/men need to be and what girls/women need to be as much on stereotypes and movies as on reality. Do boys really need to be hardened Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com